My mother, Wilhelmina Lockwood, who has died aged 92, was a
doctor who survived Japanese internment and then made a life for herself in
rural England.
She was
born a twin in Indonesia to a Dutch father, Cornelius Pieter Mom, a water
engineer, and his wife, Johanna (nee Breyer). A happy childhood came to an end
when, aged 18, with her mother and sister, Margareta, she was sent to a
concentration camp, and interned from 1942 to 1945; her father was sent to a
different camp. Their Red Cross parcels were not delivered, the guards abused
them, and she almost died from malnutrition and infections. Later, she said
that the atomic bomb, and consequent Japanese surrender, saved her life.
After the
second world war ended she studied medicine at Leiden University, in the Netherlands. She met
my father, David Lockwood, who trained in theology in Birmingham, in a youth
hostel in Heidelberg in 1950; she was hitchhiking through Germany and he was
cycling to Oberammergau – that evening he skipped his prayers to chat her up.
They
married in 1954 and moved to Britain, where her medical degree was not
recognised, so she did her final year again Birmingham University and qualified
through conjoint exams. After junior doctor jobs in hospitals in Kidderminster
and Worcester, she became a GP.
For many
years she combined the roles of vicar’s wife and doctor, doing rural visits,
treating people and delivering babies while also raising four children. She
worked in rural general practice until she retired in 1990.
She made
sure her family retained close links with the Netherlands, with regular trips back on the
night boat from Harwich to the Hague. Her Dutch accent became stronger as she
aged.
My
parents retired to the village of Llowes, on the Welsh borders, in 1982. They
created a beautiful house and garden, entertained many people and supported the
Hay festival from its beginning.
My mother
was a keen photographer and wrote a daily diary for 35 years. She was stylish,
and proud of sharing her hat-maker with the Queen. She took the Guardian every
day and enjoyed the theatre and Welsh National Opera.
Her
experience in the concentration camp moulded her outlook and she dealt with
that trauma by not talking about it initially and only briefly in later life.
Being a Christian and active church member helped her cope with the sadness of
losing two daughters, my sisters Henny and Laura, in 1972 and 2009.
Her brave
spirit enabled her to rise above adversity, engaging with people and bringing
out the best in them.
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